Now, he writes with strength and calm in the hope that his daily postings will induce others to ask the questions that they are afraid or too embarrassed to ask.
Don Spencer blogged for a while before he found a topic to focus into. That happened last November when he was diagnosed with rectal cancer.
My best friend for more than 30 years died of cancer three years ago. I blog about it once a year on his birthday. When Charlie, first contracted a cancer that remains 100 percent fatal, I took the track that Charlie would be the first to beat it. Then one day, he snapped at me. He told me that as his friend he needed me to accept that he was going to die and the best thing I could do for him was to help him enjoy some of the good days that he still had left, which I did.
Charlie gave me a great deal during the course of our friendship. It has taken me the a few years to fully grasp the magnitude of his final gift, taking me through a near-daily account of what it is like when you know your good days are severely limited. I think the experience made me wiser, softer and much more appreciative of little things I see every day. This morning it was a bird song at 5:30 a.m.
Don, I hope your bout with cancer has a much happier ending than did Charlie's. But what you are doing is a gift to a great many people. Nearly everyone will either be in your situation or will have a loved one it it at some point in their lives. What you are writing will help them. And I hope people are caring enough and brave enough to address you as directly as you ask us to do in your blog.